Why is it so Hard?

posted on April 16, 2010 by  |  posted under Fun With Kids, Parenting  |  27 Comments

Why is it so hard adventures in potty training

A mother’s dream…

My 2 1/4 year old told me last week,  “‘No more Diapers Mommy.”

Excuse me…


Can I hear that again please?

“No MORE diapers Mommy!”


True story.

So seeing that my son is advanced and well behaved… he has been successful and not had one accident (Okay that is a tad exaggerated…a BIG tad)

He did awesome that first day for being a first day!  He wore his underwear on his head to give him potty powers and screamed with delight at his accomplishments and then we gave him all the M&M’s he wanted.

Then the next day came when it wasn’t as exciting… and so the story goes, but I was not about to confuse the kid, besides… he started it:)  My father is a child psychologist and I tend to ask him many child rearing questions…and his answer to the potty training issue is always:  Don’t confuse the kid.  If you are done with diapers, be done with diapers (except during sleep times until they start waking up dry).  So I press on.

Here is how day 2 went:  Underwear on head…it’s not giving him potty powers anymore….this picture says it all…


We went through a couple rolls of paper towels and tons of Lysol.  We pulled the car over to ‘water’ the sides of the streets plenty AND we had to go buy more underwear because…sometimes they are just not worth washing!…don’t leave me mean comments on wasting…that’s exactly what I was doing…dealing with waste!

Any mom who has done this knows all the dirty details of potty training, so I won’t bore you with the rest…

But now I’d like to show you how this week is going…2010-03 HDS potty&DSC 008 copy

Why did I take a picture of Elmo underwear?


(I didn’t think it was appropriate to show you his victory dance after he has success…he can’t get his drawers up that fast.)

Now I would officially like to give me and my son an ‘I did it’ badge…maybe I will CELEBRATE with him by eating some of the reward M&M’s.

I have survived the first week of POTTY TRAINING!  Wahoo!

This really isn’t a ‘real’ post…I just want to shout it out loud that it is 9 am and we have had NO accidents yet!  We’ve got to celebrate something!

(***1 pm UPDATE**** My son just opened up the front door and peed off the step.  He’s still dry though so does that count?)

I will wear my badge proud!  As soon as I make one:)

For some other potty training reads, here are some links:

‘This’ from From Amy- The Idea Room

Free Downloadable Potty Training chart from Prudent Baby via Ohdeedoo

(Don’t worry about the picture above, I wasn’t forcing him to use the potty and making him cry…he was just having a sad moment in the picture.)

Why is it so hard adventures in potty trainingAlison

    1. April 16th, 2010 at 9:49 am
      Jennifer says:
      Oh, I am going thru this right now - with TWINS! (Do I win the Mommy contest? - haha) It sounds like you are doing great - much better than us, that's for sure! Hope both you and your son can keep up the good work! :)
      • April 16th, 2010 at 9:56 am
        Alison says:
        You get to wear 2 badges! and maybe a third just because:)
        I got lucky with this kido!
    2. April 16th, 2010 at 9:49 am
      Tiffany E says:
      I have been known to throw away messy undies too {actually just a few days ago}. It just isn't worth it sometimes! Congrats to you & your little one! It is one of the hardest things to do, but in the end...so rewarding.
      .-= Tiffany E´s last blog ..So Soon? =-.
      • April 16th, 2010 at 9:59 am
        Alison says:
        Totally Agree! Thanks for your comment and encouragement!
      • April 16th, 2010 at 10:35 am
        Kaitlin says:
        Being an accountant, I figured out that we paid the equivalent of a day's worth of diapers on one pair of underwear (~$1) When you put it that way, throwing underwear out every once in a while really isn't a big deal (yes, we use disposables, and yes, I threw away quite a few pairs of underwear!)
        • April 16th, 2010 at 12:20 pm
          Alison says:
          I like the way you think!!
    3. April 16th, 2010 at 9:55 am
      Brigett says:
      Potty training is a task...we started with our son at 18 months and he has done great. We are still working on the over the night issue :) I wish you luck and completely understand your "waste" at least you are getting away from diapers :)
      • April 16th, 2010 at 9:58 am
        Alison says:
        Rock on!!! 18 months...will you teach a class??
    4. April 16th, 2010 at 10:04 am
      Philip says:
      Been there and done that!! Our son showed interest at just before 2. We went through a good month or two and then he just changed his mind. We though about fighting it but chose not too. After all, we couldn't think of any school aged kid that still wore diapers. We assumed he would figure it out eventually. As it was we all agreed that he should upgrade to a big boy bed at three and needed to be potty trained (no they don't correlate, no he doesn't know that). So, at three he got a bed and helped us throw away his diapers. (don't worry, we kept them for his sister). As luck would have it, two days later my wife was put on full bed-rest with our third. The diapers stayed thrown away and amazingly enough, he figured it out pretty quick.

      Anyway... Glad you are having luck on your end. Keep us up-to-date. You better get your badge done quick before something happens. :-)
      .-= Philip´s last blog ..The Dental Chair Rap =-.
    5. April 16th, 2010 at 10:15 am
      McKenna says:
      I just potty trained my 2 1/2 year old this week too. We started Monday and I could NOT believe how quickly he got it! My first was such a nightmare to train. It took so long and even after she was done she consistently had accidents out of laziness for about a year. This kid just did it on his own. I was shocked! But it's just like they say. When they're ready, they're ready! He didn't even have a single number 2 accident! How does that even happen? I was prepared to throw out all kinds of underwear! Now, on day 4 we've been accident free for a day and a half and I'm in heaven. Really, this feels like a bigger accomplishment for ME than for HIM. But he's the one who did all the work. :)
      .-= McKenna´s last blog ..A year without diapers... =-.
    6. April 16th, 2010 at 10:43 am
      Tasha says:
      Yes, definatly worth celebrating!!! Definatly. Oh, I dread potty training. Sigh. Keep hanging in there and keep celebrating the little happinesses.
    7. April 16th, 2010 at 11:13 am
      Julie says:
      My girl will be 2 1/2 in June and though she's interested in panties I don't think we'll be there until this summer. :(
      .-= Julie´s last blog ..Hmmm... =-.
    8. April 16th, 2010 at 11:40 am
      Amy says:
      Hi.Lar.I.ous! So been there. Potty training is one of my least favorite aspects of mommyhood...unless they are doing awesome...then it really is a party dance! Thanks for the link. One more potty training adventure in my near future.
      .-= Amy´s last blog ..Lisa Leonard Designs Giveaway! =-.
    9. April 16th, 2010 at 11:51 am
      Jalene says:
      I threw a pair of underwear away just yesterday...I only felt a little guilty.
    10. April 16th, 2010 at 12:12 pm
      Barb says:
      I'm going through this right now with my daughter....it.is.so.hard. She's doing better than I expected - for me the hard part is that I can't do anything else all day!
      • April 16th, 2010 at 12:58 pm
        Alison says:
        Amen to that...I don't leave my house too often!!!
    11. April 16th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
      Jen says:
      Congratulations! I have to agree with you that sometimes underwear is disposable :) Both of mine have passed potty-training but they're onto...even-though-you're-playing-you-have-to-stop-to-pee-sometimes training...that's a fun one too.

      Happy Friday
    12. April 16th, 2010 at 2:42 pm
      Nikki says:
      Yeah! My son and I went through this about two months...just after my daughter was born. I know...crazy timing, but he said he was ready, too, so I went with it. Trust me, the first few days are awful, but now that he's got it, life is so much easier!
      One questions...how did you restrain yourself til now from eating the reward M&M's???
      I think I ate more than he did!
      .-= Nikki´s last blog ..2010 Sweater Drive =-.
    13. April 16th, 2010 at 3:41 pm
      Alice says:
      Such encouraging news from all the potty training moms. I congratulate you all. Some are definitly easier than others. My last two girls were 15 months apart and when I was potty training the older of the 2, the youngest wanted to sit on the big girl potty too.She was 11 months old when she was potty trained. She skipped crawling and walked at 9 months. This is because she had a sister within the age range that gave her the incinitive to keep up with her big sis. Wishing you all the best.
    14. April 18th, 2010 at 3:03 am
      Adrienne says:
      HAHAHA! How cute! I just did a post on potty training my son when he was that age! After months and months and months and months...and months (okay, maybe not that long) I found something that actually worked with no accidents! You can check it out at http://kitsch-a-licious.blogspot.com/2010/04/oh-oh-oh-its-magic.html.
      .-= Adrienne´s last blog ..Graduation Is Coming Up =-.
    15. April 18th, 2010 at 9:32 am
      Mickie says:
      OMG! What a funny story- and one I am currently fearing. My daughter just turned two and has shown interest in the potty for months, but nothing beyond just sitting on it when mommy does... I hope to potty train this summer, if she's ready. I am so in awe of your diligence and patience- and hope my experience has a funny retelling as yours has!

      Way to go, young man! Potty Power!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    16. April 19th, 2010 at 9:32 am
      Valerie says:
      I'm having the worst time potty training my 3 year old. Yes, he's three. And won't do it. He will drop a bomb and walk around in it for probably as long as I would let him. He could care less about being wet or messy (yes he's in underwear- doesn't matter). I am ready to scream. But this is payback because my oldest took about a week to train.

      Glad I can celebrate someone else's success while hoping (praying) for our own!
      .-= Valerie´s last blog ..Party Time...Excellent... =-.
      • April 21st, 2010 at 5:19 pm
        tchrtiff says:
        I thought we were the only ones with a 3-year-old that wasn't potty trained. We've tried a few times in the past year but our little guy just wasn't interested or ready. And like your son, ours didn't seem to mind a wet, dirty diaper on him. Finally, this past weekend it all seemed to click for him. We had a couple of accidents over the weekend but Mon & Tue were accident-free days. I think we've *finally* turned the corner on this milestone!
    17. April 20th, 2010 at 8:56 pm
      Maren says:
      AWESOME! He's still so young! You two DO deserve badges!
    18. July 19th, 2010 at 9:17 pm
      Heather says:
      My oldest decided one day right before her second birthday that since her baby sister wore diapers she refused to. I mean screaming crying fit refused. So, I told her she had to use the potty. First week we had about 10 accidents, second 2 by the third she was fully potty trained and celebrated her second birthday.

      Her sister is 19 months old and wants to use the potty like her big sister does. Im trying but its not working to well (not because of her, because of me, morning sickness sucks) but Im hoping to have her potty trained before she is two. No more diapers!! At least for a few months then I get to start all over again.
      .-= Heather´s last blog ..I havent blogged much in a while =-.
    19. September 30th, 2010 at 6:55 am
      Kristol Faucheux says:
      I potty-trained my son this summer when he was just shy of 3. We used the "3-Day Potty Training" method by Lora Jenson (www.3daypottytraining.com) AND IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!! He pretty much had it down by the middle of the first day. Days 2 and 3 were great. Then on day 4 it was like he forgot everything... that was the hardest day. After that though, it was smooth sailing... well almost. Bowel movements were a challenge. I don't know if he was afraid to go on the toilet or what, but for a couple of weeks, Number 2 was not my favorite number. Anyway, it's been 2.5 months now and he's doing GREAT!! He rarely has an accident and has wet the bed only once. Lora states in her program that this method can be started at 22 months, which for me means, I can potty train my youngest son this coming March, and be done with diapers by summer... YAY!!
      .-= Kristol Faucheux´s last blog ..TOOT MY OWN HORN =-.
    20. October 14th, 2010 at 1:00 am
      Monica says:
      So Happy to find this post late tonight. I never fail to find something that interests me and is useful to me on this blog. U girls rock! I feel encouraged! Hopefully my lil' boy will too!.....SOON! =)LOL
      .-= Monica´s last blog ..Creepy Candy Apples!! =-.
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